A couple of years ago, I walked out of my bedroom and into the living room where my sweet friend was snuggled up on the couch and I asked, “Can I pull this off?” She immediately responded, “You can pull off whatever look you decide to pull off, you just have to own it.”
To be honest with you, I can’t even remember what outfit I was trying to pull off when I asked her that. However, I think about that brief exchange so often. We all have our unique styles and looks and taste in fashion. How we pull of those styles and looks doesn’t come down to our ability to coordinate the perfect shoe and belt, or earrings and neckline, but rather the confidence and assurance we carry when we do it. We pull the look off when we know that our identity and worth isn’t in what we are wearing, but in who we are.
“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.”
This scripture is so perfect when I think about writing on the topic of fashion. I love shopping just as much as my sister next door. And confession: I have every outfit that I have worn since 2015 documented and I plan my outfits weeks in advance. So, I will be the last person to tell you that what you wear isn’t important. But how unimportant are the outfits that I wear, if I do not first wear strength and dignity and confidence.
“Let your true beauty come from your inner personality, not a focus on the external. For lasting beauty comes from a gentle and peaceful spirit, which is precious in God’s sight and is much more important than the outward adornment of elaborate hair, jewelry and fine clothes.”
1 Peter 3:3-4
I remember a friend coming to church with me and commenting on how trendy and well-dressed everyone was.. She honestly had surprise in her tone. She didn’t understand the concept of Christians caring about the way they looked or what they were wearing. While I understood where she was coming from, I proposed she look at it from a different perspective. The scripture above explains that true beauty comes from within, and that it’s far more valuable to have a gentle and peaceful spirit than a super hot outfit on. However, it doesn’t say that outward adornment doesn’t matter, or that it is evil by any sense of the word. Our inner beauty should always take precedent and be more heavily weighted than our external appearance.
I believe that what you wear, and how you take care of yourself is a physical representation of how you feel about your own value and worth. If I have a $500 bottle of wine, I’m going to make sure it’s in the right temperature and lighting to be preserved and eventually enjoyed. If I have a $1 million piece of artwork, I’m going to make sure it’s shown off in an exceptional way in my home. So if I work to take such good care of valuable material possessions, why would I not do the same for my physical body?
Here’s my point, next time you’re getting ready to go out and you are questioning what to wear, whether it’s in style or looks good, OWN IT. Be anchored in the truth that you are radiant and beautiful and stunning from the inside out. Trust that your fierce confidence will shine through whatever clothes you have on. Next time you’re getting ready for date night or girls night out and someone asks you, “what are you going to wear?” Check yourself. Know that first you’re dressing your heart, and then you’re dressing your body and then work it, girl, work it.