Diversity in Friendships // by Jordana Heldreth

By April 16, 2018All Posts

When you think of your best friends, who is that group? Are they all people that are your same age? Are they exactly where you are in life? Or is the group a little more diverse, meaning maybe you have friends that are married if you are single, or older than you if you are young? I encourage everyone to have some diversity in your friendships because I believe that we can benefit from seeing how other people walk out their daily lives. How do your mom friends raise their kids? How do they balance being mothers and wives? Or how do your working friends balance church, work, social life, etc? Or what about having some older friends and even mentors who you can listen to and gain sound advice from?


I am going on a missions trip in June with a lady in her 60’s and I’m in my 30’s-you may be asking, what does she have in common with her? Why would she do that? Because she is someone that I want to model my life after. She is someone I wish to learn from and admire greatly. She’s a loving wife, mother, and an inspiring heart for the Lord. I am inspired every time I’m around her to be and better. So, the real question is: why would I not spend extra time with her?


This brings me to the story of Mary and Elizabeth. We know Mary was a young girl, never married and a virgin-I’ve read in some places that she was in her teen years when she became pregnant with Jesus. Elizabeth, her relative, but also her friend was in a much different place in life. She had lived a life for God and had been married for many years-but she had never had children, which I believe from scripture was a desire of her heart. These two were at different places in life, yet they were friends.

When the angel appeared to Mary, he told her that not only would she become pregnant but that Elizabeth would be too.

In Luke 1:39 it says Mary:

Hurried to the hill country of Judea, to the town where Zechariah lived. She entered the house and greeted Elizabeth.


Have you ever been so excited to see someone, the excitement was just too much to contain? I believe these ladies were having one of those moments because of what happened next:

At the sound of Mary’s greeting, Elizabeth’s child leaped within her, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit.  (Luke 1:41)


I mean talk about some excitement!


In this story, yes, they had something in common, but what I love most is that Mary was so excited to run in and see Elizabeth so that they could share this special journey together. They had each other to walk through this special part of life with. Mary not only came to see Elizabeth, but it says she:


Stayed with Elizabeth about three months and then went back to her own home. (Luke 1:56).


These ladies were not just casually saying hi to each other, but were involved in each other’s day to day lives. This was during the beginning stages of their pregnancies and it bonded them together deeply.


We learn about life from each other. I believe that’s the beauty of relationships– but the cool thing is that friendships don’t have to look the same. Your friends don’t have to be just like you. Some of my best friends are 10 or more years older than me, some are moms, and some are single. I have friends of multiple nationalities, so I learn about their different cultures as we share life. Basically, we can learn something from anyone if we are open to learn and invest in them— and they don’t have to be just like you.


God made us all different, so it’s really exciting to think that the possibilities are endless as to who your friends can be and to all that God has to show you through that person. I believe that His desire for us to have friendships comes from His desire of being our ultimate Friend.


No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have call you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. John 15:15

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