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Forgiveness Through Love’s Eyes // By Mercedes McGaffin

By August 16, 2017Discovering Me

Have you ever heard the verse that says “Love your neighbor as yourself”? I’m sure you have, it’s often used to get children to share their toys. We say it without really thinking about it. As I heard this verse for probably the 700th time in my lifetime I had a crippling thought that caused me to  re-examine my thinking.


Many years ago I found myself sitting on the bathroom floor with the shower water running so that no-one would hear my sobs. I can still remember the sound of the water, the feel of cold hard tile, and the warm salty tears that were streaming down my face. It’s a memory I can relive over and over again because I remember every devastating detail about it. Someone I loved had hurt me deeply and I became numb. Actually, to be truthful, I felt worthless.


We all have moments we can go back to in our lives where something wrong happened to us. Was I going to let this alter the course of my life? I made a decision then and there to pick myself up, and dust myself off. Let me encourage you today- what happened TO YOU ISN’T YOU. You get to choose your next step. You have the power to refuse ownership of whatever trauma you have faced. The first step I took was in getting my mind on the right things.
“Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.” Colossians 3:2 (ESV) 


Christine Caine uses the analogy that each morning when we wake up there are several trains/thoughts we can get on. We choose what train we are going to ride. Just because a thought comes,doesn’t mean you have to hop on board. You get to choose your destination.


“For those who live according to the flesh SET their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit SET their minds on things of the Spirit.” Romans 8:5 ESV


Therefore, we have to actively set our minds on the right things. Philippians is the perfect place to start.


“Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8 ESV 


Take a moment and think about what you predominately ponder on. Do you think about the things this verse inPhilippians talks about? If not, then its time to hop on another train my friend.


The second step I had to take was in forgiveness.  I had to forgive the person who hurt me and I had to forgive myself. If you don’t learn to forgive yourself you will love others through your own brokenness and it won’t be the God kind of love they deserve.


“Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other, as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.” Colossians 3:13-14 ESV


My dear reader, I pray that wherever you experience an overwhelming sense of God’s love and grace for you. That it is His desire that you live a life like Colossians talks about. A life filled with the God kind of love, filled with forgiveness, the mind of Christ, and knowing your true identity in Jesus.  I pray that no matter what your past looks like, your future is safe when you place it in your Creator’s hands.


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