If I had a penny for every girl on this earth who struggled with anxiety, let’s be honest, I would be RICH. Anxiety is real, we all struggle with it at some point, and it is a daily battle for me.
If I’m being honest with myself, and with you all, it is really frustrating to feel like you’re in a constant state anxiety within your heart. I tend to struggle with internalizing my feelings, so the majority of the time I bottle up the pain anxiety brings me, because I don’t want to expose others to the roller coaster I ride daily featuring my unstable emotions steering the ride.
I mean is it just me, or have you ever started feeling this pain, the kind of pain that swarms your heart so quickly that it makes your blood start pumping so fast that you feel like you can barely breathe? I know I do more times than I should. I have family that struggle with anxiety, I have friends that I could count on all of my fingers and toes that struggle with anxiety, and I know if you have made it through reading this blog thus far, you might just struggle with anxiety too.
Well, today I’m here to tell you that you can be free from this pain. Anxiety is real, and you want to know why we all struggle with it? Because strong women of God struggle with anxiety. Why do strong women of God struggle with anxiety? Because how they live their lives and their hearts are so focused on the Lord that the enemy looks for ways to disrupt the peace God has instilled within them. That same enemy puts situations into their lives to steer them off track and startle their hearts. Unfortunately, we have an enemy or as Jesus states a”thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy” (John 10:10). What Jesus is talking about is that the enemy doesn’t want us to experience the abundant life that Jesus brings his people. The enemy is always on the hunt to destroy our peace. “For God is not a God of disorder, but of peace.” (1 Corinthians 14:33).
Now what does that mean for us, ladies? Well, strong women of God don’t let anxiety win, they fight. Part of winning this fight, is learning to be weak and let Jesus fight for us. Then, after he makes us strong again, we get back up and finish what He started in our hearts without ever looking back.
Part of my battle to fight anxiety is to read Phillipians 4 every day. I write it on everything I can get my hands on, it’s in my heart memorized, and I meditate on it daily.
It states: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
In this verse of Phillipians, Paul commands us to not be anxious about anything. Paul literally gives us no limits in what we are NOT to be anxious in. He says in EVERYTHING by “prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
Are you ready to learn how to be a strong woman of God who wins the battle of anxiety? Well here’s how it goes. The second a feeling of anxiety enters your heart, breathe. Bring the thought, event, or person that just triggered your anxiety to light by immediately lifting it up in prayer. Start by talking to God about the situation or the anxiety point you want to let Him fight for you. You see, our God has the desire to fight for us, but He first wants us first to realize our trust is in Him, so he can do the dirty work. When you address God, begin to humble yourself before him and start thanking him. When I am my most anxious, I begin to center my heart on what God has done for me, all the blessings I have in my life, and all of the times God has come through for me. I start thanking him for being God and choosing to fight my battles for me. Connecting with God through thankfulness brings peace and makes your heart right before God.
Now, simply present your requests that you want God to take care of. Be specific, be intentional, and truly lay your feelings on the table. Like in any relationship between two people, there is an understanding of honesty. God wants us to be honest with our feelings, and even though he already knows what we are struggling with, he wants us to be honest about how we feel and what we are going through by demonstrating we have the faith and trust that He will free us from our situations or emotions. I can’t quite describe the peace of God in words, but what I can tell you is 100% of the time I come before God ugly crying and struggling with life, after I go through this process intentionally, I realize by the end of it I usually have stopped crying and I feel an overwhelming peace and sense of relief. Now, are all of my answers and anxieties gone instantly? Not necessarily. But I think clearer, I feel better, and I am renewed. This is where strong women of God beat anxiety. Instead of looking back, they move forward knowing they have placed their struggles in God’s hands and continue to fight for joy, peace, love and grace throughout the day. Do they sometimes have to do this more than once? UH YES. But praise Jesus that we can come before him a million times a day for peace and comfort.
Now listen here closely. I want you to know that because anxiety is real, it’s okay to not be strong all the time. It is real to feel hopeless, and you shouldn’t feel bad about not trying to look like you have it together all of the time. Find strength in your weakness. Give your situation to God. Be honest and vulnerable with biblical community you trust and allow them to build you up and pray through Phillipians 4 with one another. Once you finally receive a victory over an anxiety in your life, I want you to first praise God, and then start pushing others to follow in the truth of Phillipians 4. Because anxiety is every woman’s battle, and we are not in this alone. The strongest girls are the girls who experience the most anxiety, so let’s fight this fight together. Can I get an amen?