She is watching.
This sweet & sassy two-year-old of mine is watching.
She’s watching ME. Repeating what I say, doing what I do. Learning, always learning.
On a recent trip to our favorite place (Target!) I literally followed her around the store as she “shopped”. She surveyed the clothes, saying, “Awwww, cute!” as she looked, hanging the ones she picked on the stroller like I do, hands on her tiny little hip to survey her work. It was precious.
It was also eye-opening.
You see, her watching and imitating is a reminder that I am her first mentor; I am the one she looks to for guidance, to know how to be and who to be. So who do I want her to be?
Brené Brown has these challenging words for us, regarding parenting, in her book, Daring Greatly:
“Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting. In terms of teaching our children to dare greatly in the ‘never enough’ culture, the question isn’t so much ‘Are you parenting the right way?’ as it is: ‘Are you the adult you want your child to grow up to be?'”
Isn’t that really the main question of discipleship? Am I headed in a direction that I want people to follow me into? Are we the people we want our kids to be, date, or marry? If not, how do we take steps to change our direction?
When my children look at my life, I want them to see a life full of love, laughter, mistakes, and victories and know that it is all worth it. I want them to take risks and be brave, to love well and do good. Right now my daughter simply does what she sees her mommy doing (buying all the things in Target!) but she also hears how I talk about my body, sees how I treat her daddy, and will imitate how I love the people around me. I want to be the best version of myself, full of the things God has put in me already, so that when she looks at me, she sees Jesus. Ultimately, He is who I want her to be like.
Featured photo by Aspen Renée